Which of these people do you find hardest to deal with? My way or the highway: the one who’s always right, or at least talks the loudest. Yes-man/woman: the one who always seems agreeable but then never seems to do what you agreed to. Lone wolf: the one who doesn’t let you know what’s going[…]
Come to a FREE webinar series on communication in the workplace. The next webinar is on the power of appreciation. Do any of these situations look familiar? Team members are willing to go above and beyond, but they consistently report on engagement surveys that they don’t feel appreciated or valued People agree on actions and[…]
IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO POWER You just started a new leadership position and you wonder how to increase your power. As a woman, you need to assert your power but you have concerns. You are junior and you want to gain more respect by asserting more power, even if you don’t have the title. Power[…]
I often hear clients saying that they don’t like power. Some of them associate power to something negative that they don’t want in their life. This mindset puts them in a tight position at work that limits their growth. Power is undeniable, it is part of work. You need the power to influence people, the[…]
Seeing a family member praising another one is a natural image. It doesn’t raise eyebrows. When a team member does the same, it is a rare picture. The workplace is not set for appreciation, yet human beings need it. The result is a high turnover that can be easily reduced. Much too often in my coaching practice do I hear clients complaining about the lack of appreciation. They feel that their work is not valued and work becomes a transaction, not a passion. Praises have the unique power of turning a task into excitement. Without it you just move or think, you don’t create value.
Who said that at 25 year-old your stop growing? The resulting effect is that people think they are a finished product at 25 and that nothing can change anymore.
What I truly believe, and that Robert Keegan put into words, is that like children, adults evolve through development stages. They get out of adolescence through the stage called Self-Sovereign, “I’m my needs and my needs are all I think of”. It is a self-centered stage.
Then you move to the Reactive or Socialized stage where you become what people want you to be. You are what you feel is important in order to be accepted by the group. It is fantastic way to start life and become integrated in the group. It is typical of the young adults.
The next step is to learn that you can assert some differences and still be accepted; you move to the next stage called Creative or Self-Authoring. You become what you want to create. Your achievement is driving you. Until you sense that something bigger that your own view of what is important exist and you want to explore that; you enter the self-Transforming stage where you let th […]
Steve Wonder’s speech at the International Student Peace Day at the UN made me cry. What he said moved me deeply. It touched a core belief and gave me a strong desire to refute status quo. He shared what he said to his mom when he was 8 years old: “I was not given the gift of seeing visually, but I might be here for another reason, I was blessed with the gift of song writing and singing”. He was sick of making his mom cry because of his blindness and he understood that the true gift is not sight, it is the vision of what you can bring to the world. He was connected to his true talent and he shared it with success to our delight. […]
You don’t stop growing at 25! Leaders, like children, also face a cognitive and behavioral evolution that ranges from reactive to creative methods of leadership. Without experience, it’s normal that a young leader would be more reactive, but in time, experiences build your evolution and pave the road towards effective leadership. But stages of development are not linked only to[…]
I thought that thanks to the financial crisis, the world would grow up. It would transition from an individualistic, independent maturity stage to a more interdependent one. The crisis was a good sign that we were all interconnected, that the consequences of our acts didn’t only impact our lives but those of others. In fact, it was even worst, as it impact mostly others and not the one at the source. Oh boy, was I naive, or enthusiastic. […]
Yes, we can learn about anything. Practice, discipline and reflection can help us learn new skills and master old ones. But you can only be as efficient as your paradigm lets you. It’s like driving a car: you can learn about mechanics, practice via videos but unless you can reach the pedals and see over the wheel, you won’t be good at it. It’s the difference between 9 year-old and 45 year-old: the former can dream about becoming the best driver, only the latter can actually be it. […]