Who said that at 25 year-old your stop growing? The resulting effect is that people think they are a finished product at 25 and that nothing can change anymore.
What I truly believe, and that Robert Keegan put into words, is that like children, adults evolve through development stages. They get out of adolescence through the stage called Self-Sovereign, “I’m my needs and my needs are all I think of”. It is a self-centered stage.
Then you move to the Reactive or Socialized stage where you become what people want you to be. You are what you feel is important in order to be accepted by the group. It is fantastic way to start life and become integrated in the group. It is typical of the young adults.
The next step is to learn that you can assert some differences and still be accepted; you move to the next stage called Creative or Self-Authoring. You become what you want to create. Your achievement is driving you. Until you sense that something bigger that your own view of what is important exist and you want to explore that; you enter the self-Transforming stage where you let th
Most of the adult population in the USA navigates between Reactive-Socialized and Self-Authoring. Some never move stages.
On October 20th at the Columbia Coaching Conference, Beth Shapiro and I led a great experiential learning session to help coaches in the room understand how those stages of development affect the team’s culture.
The takeaway is that when you stand in reactive strategies, the Reactive-Socialized stage, you tend to focus the attention only on yourself and create a culture that does not invite team collaboration.
When you move to creative competencies, Self-Authoring or Self-Transforming stages, the energy is lighter, you start working with others to achieve and realize your core strength.
It was a great opportunity to hear from coaches in the room how it helps their clients understand that shift and how the wheel on the ground really supports the learning process.
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Change Agent who helps people transition from reactive to a creative stage